Wellness is my passion—it’s one of the pillars of this site and my career, and I’m truly in love with the message behind it. It’s such an exciting time, too, as society is becoming a more health-conscious place, but I’m noticing a different kind of shift, too. A less valuable one.
To me, wellness or living well used to be small positive practices that were making me feel wonderful. When I began changing my diet to include mainly clean foods, I felt energized and light. When I became obsessed with swapping out toxic beauty products for natural choices, I felt like I was doing my health a huge favor. When I would run a bath for myself after a long day (aka self-love), I felt at peace.
And as I push on with just as much wellness as ever—more than ever—the sense of doing something good for myself has dimmed and the pressure to make every decision perfect has heightened. Now that wellness is such an integral part of my world, and the world, it’s lost some of its initial satisfaction.
I find myself getting down if I can’t fit in the perfect morning wellness routine (consisting of a combination lemon water, meditation, dry brushing, yoga, bullet coffee, journaling, green juice, and an Insta-worthy breakfast) when I used to beam after doing just one of those things. Or that my smoothie all of a sudden isn’t healthy if I’ve run out of bee pollen—though I’ve got spinach, fruit, flax, chia seed, collagen, nut butter, and hemp oil.
It’s like we’ve—or I’ve—striped the good out of wellness intentions and instead have created a new to-do list for ourselves. And I’m sure a lot has to do with social media. Even the biggest wellness people in the game likely are “messing up” from time and time and not living a wellness-chock life 24/7 like their feeds suggest. I’m probably victim, too.
And don’t get me wrong; I’ll never stop caring about wellness. It’s scientifically proven to living a healthier, happier, longer life and the individual practices are essential to what makes me feel my best. But I’m vowing to stop beating myself up if life—including TV instead of meditating when there’s a show on that I’m looking forward to or grabbing something from Starbucks if I didn’t have time to whip up a chia smoothie—happens, because it will. And remembering that leading a life full of wellness doesn’t have to own each minute of my to-do list. Wellness can still be amazing without being perfect.
I’d love to hear how you feel about the pressures of perfectionism that come with wellness. Do you agree and feel the same way? Or have you found a way to put less pressure on yourself while still living well?