To change gears a bit and shift the focus from personal wellness to that of relationships, today’s post is all about the things we can do as individuals to ultimately be a better partner.

As someone who has been with their significant other for several years and recently got married, I can safely confirm there are tons of ups and downs in any relationship. In an effort to have more ups than downs, I think each person has to contribute to the overall health and happiness of the relationship. To make sure you’re doing that, and being the best partner you can be, here are five things to focus on.

Make communication top priority

Communication is one of the most important things you can contribute to a relationship. In my experience, most issues start because somewhere along the line communication breaks down. This is especially important around big life topics like marriage, religion, children, politics, etc. The more you communicate, the more you can understand each other’s views and needs.

Learn each other’s love language

Maybe this suggestion is overplayed, but I think it’s still worth mentioning. The book “The 5 Love Languages” might seem a little on the cheesy side, but it can really open the door to finding out how you give and receive love. This can help both you and your partner understand each other’s needs because more than likely they’re different. Which brings up another important topic – being willing to do things you don’t necessarily like, but you do them anyway because they give your partner joy. These are the small sacrifices you have to make every once in while, and the more willing you are to participate in this way, the better off your relationship will be.

Always be honest in how you’re feeling

This goes hand-in-hand with communication. Even when it’s hard to form the words and have a serious conversation, both parties will ultimately be happier knowing you can always share your feelings. If you hold something back, your partner is bound to realize it eventually, so don’t be afraid to be vulnerable here.

Express gratitude

It’s just as important to be vocal during the happy and easy times as it is during the difficult. This is something I could honestly probably be better at because I know I’m more apt to say something only when there’s an issue to be discussed. Expressing gratitude and letting your partner know how thankful you are for their support (emotional, financial, whatever it is) will always be appreciated.

Take care of yourself

This is a lesson I’ve learned recently and one I’ll always value. When you aren’t taking care of yourself – mental or physical – it’s more than likely also going to affect your partner. They’re going to notice you’re struggling and it can start to change the dynamic of your relationship and the way you spend time together. To avoid this situation altogether, be sure to make time for yourself. Block off an hour or so here and there in your calendar to reconnect with yourself and give yourself some self love. Both you and your partner will benefit, trust!

What are some things you’re practicing to be the best partner possible? Always love suggestions on this topic.