One of the things I’ve caught myself doing recently is putting myself down, including when receiving a compliment. I meet “you look so great” with something like “I hide the baby weight well” or “ughhh I feel gross” or “I don’t, but thanks” and this is something I’m working on changing. I want to re-route the negative thoughts to turn them into positive ones, especially with my postpartum body struggle.
Every time I start to think or say something damaging, my goal is to turn that feeling into one of gratitude. So for example, when my tush doesn’t fit into an old pair of pants, instead of melting down I thank my hips for expanding to help bring Leo into this world. Or every time I look in the mirror and see dark under eye circles, I’m embracing them as mama war wounds for getting the privilege of being up at night with my child. And from now on, when anyone says something nice, I’m working on hearing them, soaking up the compliment and responding with a “thank you.” Self-kindness isn’t always easy, but I certainly don’t want to beat myself up. It’s no way to live.
Does anyone else relate to this?