This post was written by BIA contributor Chelsea M. Becker
A few weeks ago, I went through a funk. I began waking up feeling like it was Groundhog’s Day and generally unexcited about life. I tend to be a positive, optimistic person, but for some reason I was feeling bogged down and heavy. Nothing significant had changed, but I found myself feeling much different than normal.
After about a week of feeling like this, I realized my emotions weren’t naturally changing on their own. And since I was sick of being a downer and even feeling ungrateful, I wanted to do something about it. I decided to dedicate that Sunday to a “touch base day” – something I hadn’t ever thought of before, but something I thought might help.
I have a friend who swears by journaling to get her out of funks, so that’s where I started. I wrote down everything I was thinking or feeling (or not), and 5 pages letter, felt lighter. Not necessarily happier, but more in touch with what was happening.
I noticed my words surrounded a lack of excitement. I enjoyed my job, but it wasn’t giving me the same thrill it did a year ago. I liked the workout classes I was attending, but they weren’t challenging me mentally. I liked taking my dog on walks, but the same route every afternoon wasn’t refreshing. I liked laying low at night, but was also feeling lazy and bored of even my favorite shows. I loved working from home and not getting ready every day, but I was so over my yoga pants and no makeup routine.
Now, I’m a homebody but I’m also extroverted – and I realized that I wasn’t feeding that part of my personality. I was, for the most part, doing the same routine day after day, without meeting new people or going outside of my comfort zone. No wonder I was feeling stuck in a rut. I had created a rut for myself, with little to look forward to other than the same ol’ things.
Even though it took major self-motivation and energy, I vowed to make that next week different. I went back to my journal and what I had made note of (work, night time routine, being home all the time, boring workouts, etc.), and made a tweak to each area.
From signing up for a new class just the next day (even if I had zero idea how to do TRX), to asking a friend to dinner the following (even if that meant actually having to put makeup on!), to keeping the TV off for the week (even though I’d miss the Real Housewives), to sprucing up my desk and recipes that week, it was just the refresh I needed.
I don’t know why it took me over a week to realize that I needed to touch base with myself vs. dragging in my own boredom, but I’m so glad I did the practice. If you’re feeling “off” or bored, I can’t suggest it enough! It’s amazing what a little journaling and newness can do to your mood.