Being social is something I’ve always associated myself with and enjoyed, but as I get older, I’m noticing that my love for spending time in solitude is just as pleasant—if not more. When I first felt this pull, I suffered from FOMO (fear of missing out) and forced myself to continue being busy with social functions. And while all were fun and I loved being out and seeing people, I always ended those days wishing I had more time for myself. So I gave in.
I started saying no to more invites and instead took that time for me. Time to simply lounge, or apply a face mask while watching bad TV. Or even time to get my laundry and errands done so that I could cross off the nagging to-do list lingering in the back of my mind. Even the mundane tasks started feeling nice since I treasured my alone time so much. Sure, missing out on fun events that are blasted on my Instagram feed pinged at first, but then it turned into a welcomed embrace of feeling content.
Constantly being involved socially was draining, and without that necessary time for myself, I was exhausting my energy without really realizing it. Now that I make it a priority to schedule in alone time each week, I not only feel more relaxed, productive, and happy, but I also get super excited to go out since those times are now limited. I’m not always thinking of ways to bail on social commitments because I’ve already assessed whether it’s more valuable than me time.
If you want some solo time, say no to something social this week! Here are other ideas that I personally love to do while alone:
- Clean out my closet and shop for what I need (or want, same thing right?).
- Run a bath with candles and relaxing music, and sit in there until I get cold.
- Get a massage.
- Take a walk with just my headphones.
- Cook a yummy, healthy meal of what I want to eat. Or dive into sushi takeout.
- Blast music of my choice while driving down the coast.
- Try a new workout video that makes me look ridic (usually anything dance-related).
- Watch endless YouTube makeup tutorials from bed.
- Cut out pages from magazines and make an inspiration board.
How do you like to spend your alone time?