Over Thanksgiving my mother-in-law was watching my husband and I sit together on the couch and pointed something out that stuck, “You two are never at rest. Even when you’re relaxing, your phones are beeping and buzzing or your scrolling. Isn’t it exhausting?”
She was right. In fact, we’re the most stimulated and busiest generation to ever walk this earth. We’re watching Netflix while scrolling through IG, checking text messages while having dinner with friends, sending emails while pouring coffee, and snapping during hikes in nature. We are never truly at rest, and ultimately this can be incredibly taxing on our systems.
I’m realllly good about taking alone time but embracing rest without the distraction of my phone is something I’ve realized I’m not great at. So I’m working on it! Just being aware of it has made a difference. It’s like a bright spotlight highlighting how distracted I am and when I catch myself, I try to change the behavior. This means leaving the phone behind while on vacation, not reaching for it while watching Homeland, resisting the urge to share the recipe I’m cooking on Snapchat, not scrolling through Instagram when I can’t sleep, not checking my phone while at the movie theater, leaving my phone in my bag during meals with friends/family so the alerts are out of sight and not distracting, etc.
This is obviously REALLY hard to do as I’m tethered to my phone but I can genuinely say that I get so much more out of my downtime when it’s not part of the plan. What about you? Do you limit your phone use during downtime?