I’m generally a very positive person (some have even said I’m too optimistic at times, #rude), but that doesn’t mean bad moods or negative mindsets don’t happen. I’m pretty sure it’s something every single person on Earth deals with – it’s simply part of being human.
After an especially hectic situation a couple weeks ago, a friend – who happened to be freaking out – asked me how I was being so positive and OK with the situation. She was almost annoyed that it wasn’t affecting me in the same way. And when I really thought about WHY I wasn’t stressed to the brim or totally pissed off, it’s because I’ve learned to change my mindset.
I can’t exactly remember where I learned to do this – possibly a class about Buddhism in college – but it’s a method that’s stuck with me for a long time. And I’m not trying to say that I’m perfect or, again, that things don’t bother me – but I will say I’m good at turning a shitty situation into an OK one.
Here are examples of when/how I shift my mindset:
- You have to wake up super early becomes You get to enjoy your coffee even more the next day AND you’ll be tired by 9 p.m. – perfect for a great night’s sleep the next night.
- Traffic is horrible becomes A time to let other people wig out, and instead, you get more time to yourself – and time to listen to your favorite podcast.
- You feel sick becomes This is my body telling me I need to slow down and take care of myself. And hello, all the reality TV and ramen in bed!
- You gain a few pounds becomes OK, reminder to prioritize myself, to call a friend for a gym date, and to take a walk on the coast this weekend.
- Your dentist bill is $1500 (been here recently!) becomes Time to reign in the budget and start working on a few delicious at-home recipes.
You get the idea! Even though certain things might be out of our hands, the way we react is ALWAYS up to us. As the famous quote goes, “Rule your mind or it’ll rule you.”
Next time you’re feeling upset by something (big or small), try and tweak your mindset into seeing the good in the situation. It might sound silly and maybe even annoying, but I promise it’s worth trying for yourself. Let me know how it goes!
Do you have any mindset shift examples?